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  1. 7 points

    Happy Father's Day

    Happy Father's Day to a bunch of swell guys, a few "ok" guys, a couple of buttheads in particular! They may want mommy when they are feeling ill, but it is us they come to when it is broke. They may want mommy when they are feeling tired, but it is us they come to they want a piggy back ride. They may want mommy most of the time, but it us they call out for when the monsters come. All we can do is stand tall, stand firm and try to be the man they think we are. Happy Father's Day, be proud, you are a Dad.
  2. 5 points
    I love writing. Writing is a definite passion of mine. I have a few publications I am quite proud of, ranging from “Letters to the Editor” in my college newspaper to a full e-book. My niche is generally in the realm of military veterans and their transition into civilian life; resumes, work, life, benefits, and so on. I am also a career, benefits, and life coach which leads me to do a lot of research and writing for my clients. I am now proud to be a writer on dadshideout.com’s new blog, “The Good, The Dad, and The Ugly,” so all my experience is finally being put to good use! With having typed hundreds of thousands of words (Have I typed a million words?) for business and pleasure, I have a pretty well established writing technique. I figured I would run through some of the things I do and use so you might be able to pick up and integrate something to make your writing easier! This first post will be about equipment - the physical stuff I hold or use when writing. I will explore software, environment, and other aspects in later posts. I want to stress that this is MY stuff that I like. You should not go and buy anything because I say so! You might not like my style or techniques. Still, it can be useful, as you can see if I have good ideas and then you can try them out to see what works best for you! So, on to writing equipment! The Old School When you want to talk equipment, any craftsman or artist worth their salt is gonna tell you - start with the basics, start with the foundations, start with the time-proven! In this case, we are talking good old fashioned “pen and paper.” I have two types of notebooks - the “carry with you anywhere” pocket version and the “writing at a table” size version. You also need a pen (or pencil). The trick with these is you need to train yourself to carry the pocket version like your wallet, keys, and cell phone. You need to have it with you when an idea strikes. I am certain that I will not remember my random “good ideas” and by writing them down I have a chance of developing them later. The table size version is for those time when I get tired of digital work or if using a digital device is not an option. Watching a show with the wife, going to one of my kids' friends birthday parties… It should be large enough for some serious writing or to make thought webs, sketches, and so on. For a writing implement, I prefer a pen. They are more durable in my pocket and less likely to be “useless” when I need them. I could spend an hour or more walking up and down the pen aisles at the local craft store, admiring and testing pens, looking for the perfect fell on paper, the perfect fit in my hand. Sometimes, though, you go with your tried and true. From my time as a combat civil engineer, I became partial to “write anywhere” pens, specifically Fisher Brand; pocket version and normal size. They write at any angle, and back when I was doing field work they are paired beautifully with the “Rite in the Rain” brand Notebooks I used. Honestly, I have considered having a “Rite in the Rain” Notebook and Fisher Pen in my shower! What, I get the best ideas in the shower, don’t you? I also use Bic pens (cheap, plentiful, easy to write with, no worries if they get lost of “borrowed”), so I am not a total pen snob! My buddy likes the thick lead mechanical pencils - whatever floats your boat! Notebooks are like pens, there are hundreds of types and you need to find what feels best to you. For the pocket version, I find that quality matters. With it being in a pocket and getting shuffled about day after day a cheap notebook is gonna disintegrate on you. Then again, when I started I used the bargain bin small spiral bound notebook with 30-50 pages. I happen to like “Moleskine” brand 3.5 x 5.5 Inch Ruled notebooks. There are plenty of other similar styles too. I have used these super thin notebooks by TWONE - they only have 30 sheets, but don’t take up any room at all. That makes them easy to carry around all the time. I have a tall single fold wallet and these will fit almost completely inside. For my “table size” version I go simple - 8x10.5 spiral bound notebook. These take far less of a beating, so I don’t spend much time or thought on these. I went with the tried and true once again. I go with a spiral bound 100-page notebook. It got me through high school, it got me through college, and I did all my research papers with these things, so why change what works? I like the larger size when I am bringing a backpack, a case or when working at home. I prefer the spiral style so I can fold it completely if I need the space, or if I am writing on my lap while on the couch! The New School I love my Microsoft Surface 3. It is my primary tool for whenever I am working on a writing project, to include “The Good, the Dad, and The Ugly.” While the keyboard on my desktop is a little more comfortable for long sessions of writing, the Surface 3 holds the role as the “inspiration” and “first draft” tool. Once I tap out those first few hundred (or thousand) words, I take the data to my desktop for edits and polishing. Why start on the Surface? I love the portability of it, I can run the same software between the Surface and my desktop, and most importantly, the keyboard cover. The keyboard cover? Yes, the keyboard cover. The feel of the keys as you depress them and the staccato clicks as you type are delightful. The damn thing is 5mm thick but it more enjoyable to type on them most laptops I have owned! It is enjoyable to work on, and that is important. If it isn’t enjoyable, you won’t do it or long if you have a choice… The software interchangeability is nice, allowing me to work on the same software that I use on the desktop. This makes the workflow more streamlined; I don't have to spend time copy and pasting between systems and such. I transfer data between Surface and Desktop with a 64gb thumb-drive. I tried to use Microsoft OneDrive, but I found that taking the thumb-drive between computers worked better for me than making sure everything was synced up. If I am in a rush, I grab the thumb-drive; no need to turn on a computer, log on to the internet, and then sync. I use the thumb drive as a removable hard drive - save and load from it. If you are going to do work between multiple digital platforms, as I do, getting a system in place for transferring and tracking files is critical. Finally, the portability of the Surface makes the interchangeability useful. It is about the same size as a tablet. I have a case on mine to increase its durability - still comes in about half an inch thick. Battery life is great - way better than my laptop. I get 4-6 hours of full video playback off a full charge, and I can type for 8 plus hours on reasonable brightness. The Surface 3 charges using a micro USB, so I can use the same charger as my phone if I need to. I can boot it up really fast - sub 20 seconds - which means I can turn it off completely to save battery. All this adds up to a relatively powerful, very portable, enjoyable to use writing tool. You could also use a tablet with a Bluetooth keyboard or a regular laptop. I used my laptop previously, but I have found being able to bring the Surface with me to more places is more useful than being able to do more varied tasks on the laptop. When the workflow progresses beyond words and basic editing, I step up my game to something more robust. The Workhorse When all is said and done, I have way more equipment than I need. You could do everything on the Surface 3 and call it a day - I have and do from time to time. Still, when I am handling multiple projects, research, or online learning/teaching I need my dual monitor desktop. I became spoiled by multiple monitor setups during my time in the Air Force working as a Geo-spacial Engineer. The ability to put the main program on one screen and source material on the second was a godsend. No more alt-tabbing or manually clicking between views. When writing, I find the same is true - dual monitors allow more information to be up at the same time and reduce time spent flipping through windows. The desktop also has the power to do full editing of audio, video, and much more. It has sufficient storage to keep everything centralized, but I have a backup drive… just in case! The best seat in my house (other than my recliner!) is my office desk chair which makes long sessions far more comfortable. I also have a keyboard I love and a speaker setup that allows me to play background music to keep my mind from getting too distracted by outside noise. Always Evolving I have been using this equipment setup for about the last year and a half. Before I purchased the Surface 3 (second hand, I might add. Save your money where you can, right, dads?) I used a laptop from college. It was a 2013 model but it did everything I needed for writing, and it could even run a second monitor! When I used the laptop my setup was two things; paper notebooks and the laptop. Now that I have a more workspace, the current setup rewards me with better overall results by splitting the laptop into two different machines better suited for particular purposes. The Surface fills the portability and “drafting” niche while the desktop fills the editing and finishing niche. I am sure over time my equipment will change again. I know that I need to add in a camera to my equipment, as taking my own high-quality images for use on the blogs is something I would like to do. Right now I get by using my cell phone, but that will only go so far. Still, why spend money on perfect, when good enough will do? So there you have it. The equipment I use to get the words from my head to your eyes. I will be following this up with the software I use and then the process I use to bring it all together. If you have equipment that you use when writing and would like to chime in, comment below! I would love to hear what you use to get those words on the page; I might even borrow some of your good ideas!
  3. 5 points

    Bradt3225 has passed

    It is with heavy heart and deep regret that I have to post this here, but our fellow dad, Bradt3225, has passed away. Bradt has been with us since the very beginning at DHO, coming over from Daddyplace, and while he wasn't always super active in the community, I know that he gamed many nights with fellow dads and was even an honorary admin here. Bradt loved the escape of video games and the connection it gave to many of us whom never would have met or even known Bradt without that outlet. He was a great dad, a wonderful friend and a kindred spirit. I hope his next respawn is in a fantastic new world. He is survived by his two daughters. Please always remember Bradt.
  4. 5 points
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  5. 4 points
    Similar to the Italian Marathon, there will be another marathon coming for 2 weeks in Sept where you can earn the new Premium Tier VIII British Heavy Tank (and/or possibly earn a discount towards it). WG mention in a previous video that the missions would be easier this time than they were for the Italian Marathon. More details will be coming in another video and article in the near future. Once I have that info, I'll be posting it here.
  6. 4 points
    Update. My old gaming laptop has something mechanically wrong with the hard drive that will cost $800 to fix. No go. There is a happy ending. Our brother dad Juggernaut took pity on me. He gifted me a gaming laptop that he was no longer using. You know what? It is a little better than my old broken one. So a huge thank you to Juggernaut, one of our many wonderful dads.
  7. 4 points

    Milestone of Sorts

    Have the same amount of wins as defeats. Now to work on the 92 draws. Lordy it takes a lot of battles to come back from early frequent mistakes. 😁
  8. 3 points

    DHO-X Clan Wars Info

    Clan wars season 10 runs from September 24 to December 4. DHO-X will play 3 nights a week, Tues, Thurs, and Sat at 10 et. See discord for battle announcements. Scheduling Battles Tanks to Grind Players Guide Strategy Basics Map Strategies
  9. 3 points
    Gillette & Toxic Masculinity A Positive Message or an Attack on Men? If you read the news or participate in social media, you have no doubt seen the phrase "toxic masculinity." If you haven't, the concept is simple on the face of it: behaviors and expectations of what a "real man" is that cause or increase likelihood of harm for self and/or others. The is an ad produced by Gillette that has taken the internet and news media by storm in the last two days that attempts to highlight "toxic masculinity." Here's the rub: what the hell does that mean? Why do we even care? Why Dads Should Care Boys or girls, biological, step or adopted, uncle, grandpa or just mentorship-related; we influence children and adults through our interactions and through our value systems. These value systems are held in close connection to our self identification. We define ourselves through our values, and our values should influence our actions. As we hold these values so closely, we tend to try and pass them on to others. If the values have served us well (or more accurately, when we perceive that the values have a positive influence on our lives) we want share our beliefs so others can have our success. What if our values are actually holding us back or causing other harm? That is the reason why we should care about this "toxic masculinity" discussion. It is far too complicated cover all of this in a single post, but lets take a quick look at what is going on in this ad and what we can do; perhaps more importantly - should we do anything? Gillette - The "Mens" Company that Jumped into the Discussion In the last two days, my news feed has been swamped by reports and discussion on this advertisement by Gillette (a company that makes razors and other personal care products for both men and women) which "calls out" the "toxic" behaviors of men. I suggest you watch it for context for the rest of this post. Gillette "Toxic Masculinity" Advertisement: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=koPmuEyP3a0 Welcome back. How are you feeling? Happy? Sad? Confused? Angry? I felt all these things. It is a complicated and emotional topic. Look at the stats on the video (again this is just the last 2 days): The comments on the video are quite "enlightening" as well. Wade into the comments with care - they are not known for their "depth" but they give a good reading on a commentators emotional state at the time. The initial gut reactions are telling. Large numbers of men feel attacked and respond negatively. Why wouldn't they? The question is: Are the feelings justified? What is masculinity? Hell of a question, isn't it? I will take a stab at, though. Think of belief and action systems that are often held up as "good and virtuous" or as the highest forms of "masculinity": a "classic/old school gentleman," the "chivalrous knight," or the "hardworking father." All of these share common threads - responsibility & bravery among them. Think of the actions and believes these archetypes, the typical example of a thing, tend to have: kindness and consideration to others, forgiveness, mentorship/leadership, resoluteness, protectiveness, and strength in the face of adversity. (Disagree? Feel free to say so in the comments!) Each of these requires one to have both a sense of responsibility to act and bravery in order to live up to these concepts. With this idea of "masculinity" in mind, does the commercial attack those things? Spoiler alert: no. The ad doesn't attack any of these concepts; rather it highlights and encourages these concepts. I am thinking of breaking it down scene by scene but that a bit long for today - let me know if you would be interested in more commentary on this ad. So if the ad was mostly positive, why so much backlash? Where it went Wrong (for me) I can identify nearly every scene, but the one that stood out the most for me was the scene with the two boys 30 seconds into the ad. The narrator says "making the same old excuses" and the video cuts to two young boys "fighting" (more on that in a moment), then the dads standing idly by the grill repeating "boys will be boys" over and over again. The narrator continues, "but something finally changed," and a news caster talks about accusations of sexual assault. It was at this point that I had my negative emotions. The preceding scenes made me sad - bullying, sexual harassment, party culture, the "sitcom dad" attacking the maid, the board room guy using power and authority to silence the woman and "assume" her thoughts - these are situations that I believe represent harmful beliefs and actions. I was on board and supporting the message thus far; there are elements in our culture (and specifically in the culture of men) that are wrong and need to be confronted. Then the "fight scene." I became confused. I fell attacked and my mind went into defensive thoughts. I have two young boys and they do this all the time. Am I a bad parent? The narrator set it up - "making the same old excuses." What excuse am I making for my two sons when they fight? "Boys will be boys." I believe that boys DO have certain tenancies, and whats wrong with that. "Finally something changed," "sexual assault," "sexual harassment," berated me, the vision of my two sons wresting on the ground still in my mind. I became angry, and it clouded my view of the ad completely. Here's why: Attack on a Core Belief The scene, unlike the rest, lacked clarity. We see the two boys, of similar size and age, start to tussle. No context. Just a yell and down they go. From my perspective, I see two "boys being boys." To me, that is a thing - my sons like to wrestle with each other. They love to wrestle with their dad! This sort of play is not negative or "toxic," not any more than baby chimps or lion cubs tussling in nature. It gives an opportunity for my children to play and discover things, learn lessons, and connect with each other. Such play fighting or sport cannot be the entirety of a persons existence, as that would have a negative effect for sure, but in measured amounts, it serves to be a teaching tool; teaching about self, others and the world. A child has a toolbox of skills they can use solve conflict. The younger one is, the far fewer the available tools. One of the earliest tools is physical action. That physical action can take many forms: one could walk away, one could sit still, or one could attack another. The youngest attacks his brother on a regular basis, as the oldest is quite astute in driving the little one to "madness." And generally, I let them fight. Why? It teaches them something. I am not completely laissez faire a la "Lord of the Flies" - I am monitoring my children. I am not stepping in right away though. If I step in EVERY TIME they have a physical confrontation my sons learn one thing: if we fight a parent will stop us. While this seems like a good lesson, but is it? To stop every fight at the earliest sign of conflict prevents them from exploring conflict resolution in a most critical situation - after violence has started. What happens when we apply this to the larger world, where there are no parents to step in at all times? My sons do NOT learn to avoid physical confrontation, the learn to avoid getting caught. They do NOT learn that physical solutions often extract more in cost than in reward, only that violence will make parents become involved. They do NOT learn how to de-escalate violence or violent action, they learn others will de-escalate the situation for them. They might never learn there ARE times when violence is necessary, and that even in those cases, there is a cost. By allowing them to fight (supervised) they are actually developing their ability to make judgments and to reach agreements. They learn (the eldest already knows, as he does it on purpose) that you CAN push someone to violence through non-violence. There is a level of teasing, harassment, or just plain "button pushing" that will make violence justified in the mind of another. That is not the same thing as saying the justice is justified - only that it becomes justified to the other person. That is a VERY important lesson. It re-enforces civility and respect. They also learn that violence has consequences. Not just physically, though physical consequences have occurred; bruises, scrapes, bumps and cuts have all happened. More often than not the consequence is social, not physical. It could be a consequence within their relationship; they are far less likely to participate with one another after a significant fight. Less likely to share both physical possessions and knowledge. They are less likely to be trusted. It causes all sorts of problems. I notice the fight and I remember for the next time they ask me for something and then I remind them that those that fight do not get rewards. All of this helps teach that violence has long term consequences. Justified vs Unjustified Violence I have heard people say " no violence is justified," and I completely disagree. There are times when extreme violence is justified: self defense and the defense of others being the central pillar of that belief. More importantly, there is "unjustified" violence, and I think that was what Gillette was trying to highlight in their advertisement. They just did it poorly - there are time of justified violence and without context it is impossible to determine if this either of the cases. Indiscriminate violence is bad, we can all agree. Some violence might be justifiable - but how do we learn that? Through conflict as a child TEMPERED by the guidance and wisdom of adults. Interaction is key - to never intervene is tantamount to abuse, but some risk must be taken in order to allow experiences to happen. Once those experiences happen, it is our responsibility to provide context beyond the immediate situation so that they can learn to apply the experience to the larger world. Where else can we see justified violence? In sports. In many ways sports are the way in which modern societies find a way to allow physical action to manifest itself in a positive manner. Extreme examples are the martial arts (MMA, Boxing, Karate), less extreme is football, wrestling or rugby, but these are violence, make no mistake about it. What makes these justified vs unjustified violence? Agree upon rules and consent to engage in the activity. That is the lessons we need to teach, and by having "zero tolerance" for all physical violence we take away the ability to have learning experiences. Without these experiences (and the guidance from our role models) we cannot understand the world and how we should interact in it. Gillette Actually Gets it Right - They just did it Wrong. A minute later we see the resolution of the fight - the dad steps in and says "that's not how we treat each other, okay?" Small problem, i can hear the kids giggling. Maybe that's my subconscious hearing what I want to hear, but I don't hear complaints, screams or protest. I hear two kids having fun in a physical way. Two boys being boys. That's what touched the nerve. I won't lie, it took some introspection to fully understand the "simple" feeling of anger at this scene. It takes introspection and self reflection to unpack all of that. Going though the exercise is good and has allowed me to better grasp concepts I am teaching to my children. If Gillette wanted the ad to be a conversation piece, they have succeeded. Overall, the message is positive and one that dads can support. Kindness and consideration to others, forgiveness, mentorship/leadership, resoluteness, protectiveness, and strength in the face of adversity. Each scene in the ad highlights at least one of these concepts as being positive (or conversely, a scene shows that lacking these virtues leads to negative results) and that is a huge takeaway. Finally Thought Is that the only takeaway? The idea that some ways of acting are bad? Hardly. To me there is a much larger message that is getting ignored in this discussion of outrage - positive male role models are critical to the development of strong men. That's for a different post though. Let me know in the comments below what virtues you are teaching your children or mentorees; or let me know if you think the commercial was actually an attack and where it went wrong.
  10. 3 points

    Gillette & "Toxic" masculinity

    I was okay with the advert until the same area that you were. I'm sorry, basically you're saying that kids wrestling, which is perfectly normal assuming it doesn't get out of hand, is NOT a "gateway" activity to sexual assault or bullying necessarily. I don't like how they skewed that line to show their point. And the way people are today, being pretty impressionable with social media and media in general I DO worry this ad sends the WRONG message... There IS a difference between masculinity and STUPIDITY or idiocracy. People need to chill out and stop labeling everything. IMO labels like "toxic masculinity," or "micro aggression's" are part of that idiocracy. People need to focus back on family values and not so much that "Billy hurt my feelings"and he's gonna turn into a rapist or male chauvinist later in life..... I think in a fashion we men have lost our own way as a masculine society. It is coming to a head where it may actually be frowned upon to try to be masculine or even use the word masculinity. We need not to be so offended by this, embrace it, but what part do you embrace? Like when I lived in New England and I used to open or hold doors for women and would get dirty looks. And for me it wasn't a "oh you're a woman, you need help," thing, it is a "be kind to all," thing. And yes, cause I was single..... We can't worry so much about how our children will turn out in the long run, but focus on the here and now, grooming and growing your children to just be good people, with good values. Golden rule? Be kind? Basically, don't be a douche to people.... I DON'T like that add at all, because IMO it pushes too much to DE-masculine boys. I know, I know, I will be looked at like I missed the mark, but I don't care what people say, it IS important for our children to know the differences in men and women. But NOT that one sex is better than the other. OR that a man can do this and a woman cant. Masculinity is NOT a bad thing, and I think unfortunately the way our society has gone, we are leaning too much towards trying to shut men down...
  11. 3 points

    DHO is Dead - Long Live DHO

    Have you ever heard of "The Red Queen Hypothesis"? It states that organisms must constantly adapt and evolve in order to simply survive. This theory has been applied to areas beyond biology - business, exercise, education to name a few. It also applies to dadshideout.com and other online communities. Remember "MySpace"? When you fail to adapt to the changing conditions, you don't just stop expanding, you actually shrink until you die. It seems no one can avoid the Red Queen - DHO is no different. Unless DHO adapts to changing conditions and evolves to be a better organization, DHO will follow in the steps of Myspace. Changing of the Guard In July of this year (2018), there was a huge change here at dadshideout.com. You may not have noticed it, but the custodianship of the website changed hands. With the changing of the guard came new views and new ideas. It also came with a realization. If dadshideout.com continued on its current course, the site would be dead in a year. So come along with “The Good, The Dad, and The Ugly” as we take a look at the past, the present and the future of DHO. The current custodians are @thedakar and @xJediDadx . They are the current Head Administrators for dadshideout.com and the DHO Discord Server. Previously, @Aftrthought051 and @MagmaFlow were the lead administrators with @joey791 and @Pinmonkey001 being invaluable supporters of DHO with other administrative duties such as TeamSpeak. This team has been in place since the inception of DHO and had done a fantastic job of keeping DHO and open and welcome place for dads. Yet, 8 years after the doors of the current forum opened to its first members, the original admin team was feeling the pressure. The passion was there, but the time to devote to DHO was, understandably, waning. Action was needed. The call for volunteers went out in June of 2018. Who was willing to take the responsibility of keeping the "lights on" and be the new Admins of DHO? The responsibility is a big one. Since October of 2010, there have been over 2300 dads that have joined the ranks of DHO. Tens of thousands of posts have been written in the forums. Dozens of clans have been created with “dadshideout” or “DHO” in their titles. DHO is more than a website - it is an entire online ecosystem. It goes far beyond a gaming clan; it is a place for dads to find advice, receive mentorship, and commiserate with other dads about being a dad. With the bat signal lit, xjedidadx and thedakar threw their hats into the ring. The council of admin dads conferred - who would be the chosen ones? After much deliberation, it was decided that thedakar and xJediDadX were to be given the honor and privilege of being the new administrators. Shortly thereafter, the accounts were transferred, the passwords given, and the keys handed over. With that, DHO had two new Dads at the helm. So there you go. All done, right? Hardly. Something Rotten in The State of Denmark One of the first things thedakar did was play around with all the options on the forum and found the holy grail of number nerds - analytics software. Analytics is the computational analysis of data or statistics aka: math that tells you things. The good news is that the math came as pictures (graphs). The bad news is that the math pictures were not saying good things: DHO Member Activity is Down: The volume of posts is down: Messages between Members is down: New Membership is down: In short, DHO was dying. DHO, by all metrics, has been shrinking from its peak in 2015, but the current trend was sobering. If the rate of decline continued, the site would be a ghost town within a year. With no one around, there would be no reason to spend the money keeping the site open and the legacy of DHO would disappear. So the new admins declared that something had to be done and change was coming! The old admins wished them luck and hoped for the best. The old admin team had tried to reverse the decline, so let's be clear that they are in no way to blame. Some of the long time DHO members shrugged their internet shoulders and said, “it has been tried before - good luck.” The reactions were rather lackluster - measured at best. The admins were volunteers, the decline had been happening for a long time, and what could be done on a non-existent budget, anyway? The odds seemed stacked against success. The Council of Elrond In August, thedakar put out the call to form a team of DHO members. Armed with his graphs showing the declining metrics, thedakar sought to get the experience and diversity needed to look at the problem, present solutions and debate the way ahead. The team would be made of long time DHO members, more recent dads, gamer dads, non-gamer dads, and dads of all ages. A dozen of dads raised their hands and offered to take part. The team was formed to tackle the problem. The idea was simple - figure out how to revitalize DHO. The answers were far more complicated. This will be a multi-part series where we walk you through the DHO Revitalization discussion, the lessons learned AND ( most importantly ) look for your feedback on the way ahead! Stay tuned to “The Good, The Dad, and The Ugly,” to learn more about DHO and its way ahead.
  12. 3 points

    Hapa is Twitch Affiliated!

    Thank you so much for all the support from the clan gents! Now, my channel can get subscriptions and viewers can donate bits! (Twitch Currency). This will greatly help me in my Content Creation! I already have 1 Patreon donator and got a new microphone as a result! Almost ALL of t his can be directly attributed to the hideout! Thanks a million! -Hapa
  13. 3 points

    The Good, the Dad, & The Ugly

    Dad's Hideout is proud to announce our new Blog's Name - Selected by a vote on dadshideout.com, the membership was faced with the incredibly hard decision of choosing the name they felt would best convey DHO style and inform readers about what they could find inside. So, after much thought and wringing of hands the vote was tallied and then recounted to ensure accuracy. Any last appeals were handled and the Gods smiled as the DHO Blog was christened: What are you going to find on the blog? Anything and everything that dads overcome, think about, or struggle with. Dad's hobbies, passions, and fears. No topic is off limits as dads deal with everything life throws their way - and as a dad, we deal with OTHERS lives as well! The lives of our children, our significant others, our parents and our friends all influence a dad’s life, so we plan to explore all of these areas. We will touch on home improvement, career improvement, and life improvement! We will talk about leisure and work, success and failures, and everything in between. Also, please give @Airbornebob a round of applause for the name suggestion - he has won an Amazon Gift Certificate, the adoration and respect of his fellow dads (no guarantees on that) and, if he is willing, he will be the first dad interviewed for our "Get to Know DHO" feature as well! Thank you, Airbornebob for the suggestion, as your fellow dads thought it was the best out of twenty possible options. Stay tuned, as I have a bunch of articles in the pipeline and we are prepping other dads to contribute! If you would like to become a writer for 'The Good, The Dad, and The Ugly' or would like to do you own blog series here at DHO fill out an application here.
  14. 3 points

    Down Goes Wonka!

    We softened them up with two losses to make them overconfident, then smoked them 10-5 in tier 8 strongholds. Shout-out to Wotbot for initial strat intel... and the rest of the gang for staying together and taking one to the purples and blues.
  15. 3 points

    Do you want more out of your game-play?

    I've heard plenty of people over the years inquire about things like this. I'll send them your way in case someone mentions coaching. Also if someone makes a bad trade in CW and gets their 140's turret knocked off, I'll send the your way.
  16. 3 points

    DHO-X Nostalgia

    We ran into TEXAS a couple of times tonight and one guy was very vocal in displaying his displeasure with us. We were getting called out for mods and what not after we beat them in Tier VIII skirmishes twice, once 10-0. So I dug this up from 2014. Enjoy.
  17. 3 points
    Creating this as a new post, may try to go back and edit this so that all the information is in a single post not in replies below. For those reading this for the first time, we have an Alliance for Dads, and a separate channel on the Discord server for daily chats. IF you get a Captain America offer for 100 shards and want to spend that money it is probably the best start for a minimum amount of $. Now for those starting the game and wanting recommendations: 1) Spend power cores on energy refreshes, don't worry about refreshing nodes or stores 2) Characters to pursue: Wolverine is good as a starting character, you get 5 shards a day just for completing the daily tasks. Figure out if you want to go for any of characters that I will call 'event' characters - if that is what you want to pursue, that is going to set your priorities. Avoid minion characters as much as you can early on, focus on heroes and villains. Currently Star Lord, Iron Man, and Fury are all event characters, Guardians/Ravagers, Shield, and Kree Minions respectively are required to unlock them respectively (require all teams at a given star level to complete the level, characters unlock at 5*) 3)Mercenaries are necessary for the Payday event. Deadpool if his raids come around works, Bullseye and Korath, are currently the other villains you can use. Merc Riot Guard is easy to get from stores. Picking up another 1-2 of the minions will get you into that event for credits fairly quickly. 4) Hand characters - Catalyst events. Hand characters are used in the Catalyst flash event, so you probably again want a basic team at 3? stars or so just to get some additional resources when the event hits. However unless you luck out with Nobu, only Elektra is a villain and not a minion. 5) City Heroes (Defenders and Punisher?) new event coming, for ability materials. Defenders just got a re-work, so they may be a viable Blitz and Raid team as well. Other characters have been available through flash events (Storm, Rocket, Ms Marvel), so have a wide roster with decent power (10-12k power characters) can benefit you for those events. Starting teams: Villains: Yondu (Heroes 1-9), Hand Sorceress (Heroes 2-9), Bullseye (Heroes 2-6), Crossbones (Blitz store, Villains 4-9), Nebula (Heroes 4-9) or Elektra (Heroes 3-9) Heroes: Punisher (Heroes 1-6), Wolverine (daily objectives), Gamora (Blitz store), Quake (Arena store), Night Nurse (Shield Medic Heroes 2-3 until Villains 3-9), Drax/Luke Cage for a tank Arena: Gamora/Quake/Yondu/Crossbones and a fifth work well to start. Blitz: Try to grab a synergy team as soon as you can, but Arena team will work okay. Youtube is your friend for Blitz strategies to maximize your points Raid teams: Raid teams likely will start out being your arena team, with a healer in place of character #5. This is where Night Nurse shines. Participation in the raid means you get rewards, the amount of damage you do will set which rewards you get. If you get started early, raid currency might be best spent on raid character orbs, to increase the number of characters you have unlocked, while the blue/purple gear orbs build up your stash of gear. After a certain point you will want to stop buying the raid character orbs to grab specific gear pieces out of the store (Advanced Phosphates in my case) Currently I am running Ms Marvel and 4 Hero Brawlers (Gamora, Wolverine, Deadpool, Spiderman) as my primary raid team. There are other teams that you can find, you want some healing to minimize the use of raid packs, and maximum synergy. Other things to be added as I think of them. Other MSF players probably have several different options. Ayle
  18. 3 points


    Rules and stuff: Each dad can "enter" 3 times - be a Patreon SUpporter, use the forum, use Discord! A dad can only win one of the cards - if they draw two, they choose which they want and the other will be redrawn. If a winning dad declines the gift card, the money will be saved for the next event (to be in OCTOBER! WOOT WOOT!) rather than be redrawn. Winners will be announced to the Forum once all have been drawn, contacted and accepted. If drawn, the winner will be contacted by forum, discord and email (as applicable) and will have 7 days from date of contact to respond or prize will be redrawn. If second winner is unable to be reached, the money will be saved for the next event rather than be redrawn. Good luck!
  19. 3 points

    What Are the Odds?

    Man, you play long enough, it feels like deja vu on a lot of these topics. I don't play arty often, mostly just for missions, but I think there is more skill to it than meets the eye. Mostly in positioning? I realize as little as I play, I spend more time repositioning and wishing I knew "the spots" to be able to support a flank than firing shots off. So to XVM. Hell yes I target high XVM guys, is there anyone who doesn't? Why is this even a question worth doing analysis on??? Since the invention of warfare, taking out an opponents strength is such an embedded strategy I don't know why people act surprised. So of course all things being equal we're going to target the high XVM guy. You don't need an excuse (more XP) for winning, it's about WINNING. Okay, but take the best shot and not worry about XVM. You know who is usually in the most important positions??? The high XVM guys. Do you know which demographic uses XVM (and cares about their stats) the most? The best players/high XVM guys. You know who the most toxic players tend to be? The self-esteemed-challenged basement dwellers who equate their tank skills with being someone in life, who have played their way to high XVM. Who do I like dropping bombs on the most? High XVM whiners with the ultimate WoT humble-brag, which I'm sure I've mentioned before: "Oh, whoa is me, I'm so good everyone targets me. I'm so good. I'm really very good, check out my XVM stats. Oh, why do they use my XVM stats to target me, it's such a drag on my night when people target me because I'm so good. Sure, I live and breath XVM, but I get mad when people can see how good I am with XVM and target me with arty. I wish arty wasn't in the game, it drags down gameplay, but I can't change the game so I'll just try to peer pressure everyone else who uses an in-game mechanic to try to get them to stop using it. Did I mention how good I am???????????????"
  20. 3 points


    I don't normally post on here but I was proud of this game and I wasn't top exp on the team.
  21. 3 points
    A How to Discord video will be coming out in about 2-3 weeks. Once everything has been finalized here and on Discord. Don't worry, I got the Discord noobs covered. 😄
  22. 3 points
    The Dads are back in town,,,,,,sort of. Magma, Christian and I are going to start up the podcast again with the occasional drop in from Jeremy. BUT this podcast will be rated R. NSFW/K. We also won't follow a script. Going to a more organic conversation of what is going on with us, the world, who knows. Just going to let the conversation take us to where it may. I'll post a link and all when we first get it recorded, but wanted to let everyone (that cares) know that it is coming back in a new way. Prepare yourself for: DADS UNGROUNDED
  23. 3 points

    Type 5 Q&A

    No need, the type5 has a shower inside which is powered by the tears of tanks you pen.
  24. 3 points

    DHO "Status of the Boards" Poll

    My only mild disappointment is how the advent of Discord fractionalizes our communications. Some prefer having conversations on Discord. Some (like me) prefer having conversations on the website. A member can miss conversations that are not on his preferred platform. Personally, I don't think that the benefit of instantaneous communication outweighs the drawback of fractionalization of our communications. Therefore, I am not a fan of Discord. But I am probably one of the small minority of dinosaurs still walking the earth. It's no big deal.
  25. 3 points

    Her New Hours...Need Advice

    I would add also that you may want to look at it from her perspective. While she may not be making as much as you, you need to make sure to respect that she is working as well and maybe celebrate/congratulate her for this promotion. Support and understanding is important given she's also putting in her share of time so I'd suggest trying not to just focus on the financial side of it, but rather looking for a solution that works for both of you. Regarding child care, the folks above have some good ideas. Sometimes you need to work outside of the norm to figure something out. Relax, find a plan that makes you feel comfortable (and I'd suggest isn't knocking on your SOs promotion). Been there myself when my kids were younger and I had to figure out childcare for them while I was working (their mom has pretty much been absent most of their lives and is now permanently so for the last 4+ years). You're fortunate that there are 2 of you, so I'd suggest you talk it over and work together to find a good/safe plan for the kids. Just my 2 cents from my own experience. Good luck and I hope it works out well for you both.