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By Hapa_Fodder,When the ex and I talked about getting married, we discussed the military, military life and how things might go. This is hard to explain in words that are understood. And harder for someone that wasn’t in the military to truly understand. So when I deployed in 2010 and came home to find out things weren’t exactly going well in our relationship (and I assure you that is an understatement) I took it in stride. Was I too nice? Definitely, should I have been a complete poopchute? Totally. But in the end, I had somewhere to sleep, and eat (the ship)... We had children to think about. And I was always gone already, so this would be normal to them. I agreed too much, I gave too much, I didn’t fight nearly enough.I apologize if this is long winded and I won’t go into the details over the next 5 years, but let’s just say they were less than ideal for me. In the first week of January of 2015 I was completely and utterly destroyed, mentally, emotionally and monetarily and it was all beginning to show physically. I had chronic tension, chronic insomnia, anxiety, depression all exacerbated by military life and all of it came to a head. My professional career (the only part of my life I seemed to be able to succeed in) was beginning to falter. I had a break down, I had been asking for pictures of MY children for, well, years... and her remark was that she did not have time to take pictures for me. So my mother, did what an amazing mother would. She started pulling pictures of the children off of Facebook, because evidently she had time to plaster pictures all over FB but not for their father. I had just gotten over a bout of serious depression after finally getting a picture the last week of December 2014 after begging for pictures of the children seeing them play with the toys that I bought them for Christmas. How did the ex respond? She sent a picture of my daughter on the ground playing with the toy I got her for Christmas, in the background was the man she was dating (now her new husband), he was, for all intents and purposes naked on the couch. All he was wearing was basketball shorts. When I responded to her, letting her know how inappropriate it was that she sent that to me, she of course acted like she did not know what she did wrong. At this point I questioned all my own actions and my own thoughts when it came to her and the children. So when I posted the picture to FB and asked the question whether I was incorrect in my thinking, of course the resounding answer was that I was NOT incorrect.So in that week in January, walking my dog, utterly a broken man. I came to a realization. I had still, been living for a woman and children that were not a part of my life anymore. The woman that I had fallen in love with had replaced me, completely, as a husband and father. Phone calls would always go unanswered, texts were being ignored. When I made it apparent that I wanted a set time and day to talk to the children on the regular it became my fault that my son was acting out at school and that his reasoning was because “mom was making me talk to dad on the phone.” Of course upon hearing this, I didn’t want my time to be a negative thing and I caved and stopped it. Everything welled up. Everything built up to a breaking point. And I snapped. But not necessarily in the way that I think some would. I made a decision. I was not going to live for the family that had moved away and moved forward from me. It was time for me to focus on ME. It was time for me to focus on MY life. There was at this time only one person I could rely on. ME. I had talked to a few people about my decision, for the most part it was met with positive responses. Some said, “if someone had done that to me, NO ONE would be able to keep me away from my children,” but as I have always said, you don’t get to judge someone until you have walked in their shoes.So I focused on me! 2015 was an amazing year for me, I was in the gym every single day, I am arguably not a runner, okay not arguably, I am NOT a runner. I was already walking the dog 5-7 miles a day. And by late spring, early summer I was RUNNING 5 miles a day! My career skyrocketed, that year I became my commands Senior Sailor of the Year, I went up for regional Sailor of the Year, I became the Surface Navy Association Sailor of the Year for New England, I received a top evaluation and then it happened the epitome of a Navy man’s career. I was selected to be a Chief Petty Officer. A milestone that I had all but written off as I was nearing the end of my career. All this time I was working 10-16 hour days, focusing on my career, my new “kids” (Sailors) and ME. Not thinking about what I left behind. This I know was especially hard on my parents and family/friends back home in Oregon. I still to this day feel as though I have completely let them down, though they may say this is not the case, it will FOREVER be in the back of my mind. I would be remiss if I didn’t admit that this is partially the reason why I seclude myself so often.So last year I retired from the Navy. I said “Good Bye,” to a career that spanned over 20 years, 5 ships, almost 15 years at sea, 1 shore duty, 10 deployments, countless moves up and down the west coast and coast to coast and to the Sailors that had become my children. I went through all the anxiety and depression that one does when separating from the military. But a new realization came to pass, I had the time and the money to right how I was wronged. Not necessarily to try to have a relationship with my actual children as I am a complete stranger to them today. But correct the deficiencies in the divorce decree and actually sever the siphon that that woman had directly connected to my bank account. I had after all been paying over DOUBLE what the state of Missouri would have required me to pay in child support for almost a decade.It took me almost a decade to have the time and the money to pay a lawyer and pursue what was FAIR with the ex-wife. All the while she has been acting like a selfish, childish, money grubbing gold digger. More shady stuff was attempted to by the ex, which all came out when she suspiciously was nice and agreeable to my terms as well as apologetic for years of childish, selfish behavior and I questioned it all.So when she agreed to the stipulations of changing things in our agreement of course I was skeptical. And of course she had ulterior motives. So when I got a lawyer, informed her that I was doing so, it was no surprise that she got upset. I did as I always have, told the truth, told her exactly step by step what was going to happen. And she again agreed, "so long as it wasn't going to be different than what we agreed to." My response to that has always been the same, "I am not the one trying to pull anything, or do anything underhanded. Never have I ever done anything that would negatively impact the other." So it doesn't surprise me when my lawyer informs me that he has been attempting to contact her so that she can sign her side of the paper work and has had no response from her. So, my lawyer, which BTW is ranked in the top 10 for family law in the state of Missouri did what any expensive lawyer would. He documented all his attempts and has served her with papers to appear in court. Furthermore, he has filed a motion since I am a veteran and do not live in the state to be represented in person by him so I don't have to go.There are still days where the memory of her and my lost family takes the wind from my sails, however, moral of the story, what is FAIR is FAIR. You get what you put in, treat people you "care" about like crap, it WILL come back to bite you. Being honest, open, upfront and truthful is always the best way to handle people.Will I ever really recover from all of this? I doubt it. Will I ever marry again? I doubt it. But at this point in my life, I find sitting on the patio watching the dog chase dragon flies and enjoying a glass of whiskey to be far more relaxing that worrying about those things.*That is all*
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Tips for Firewall Zero Hour: Operation Nightfall, Part Seven
Here we go with the week 6 operations for Operation: Nightfall, season 1. Let’s jump in.
Free Operation – Week 6
1.) Eliminate 4 players with a headshot using the holo sight attachment – must be done in the public contracts. The holo sight attachment is the primary sight 2 attachment. Unlocked at level 16. Just remember to equip this sight attachment and play some public contracts.
2.) Eliminate 2 players by blind-firing – must be done in the public contracts. This task is not very sensitive because I was not even purposely doing blind fires and I got credited for this. Blind fire should be when you hold your weapon out, away from you and fire down a hall, out a door or out of a window.
3.) Get 8 mutli-eliminations by killing more than one player at a time using any SMG – must be done in public contracts. I find most of my multi-eliminations is when you get kills without reloading. Helps when you happen around the corner and find two people. Down them both and then toss a grenade in there quick. It’s tough to get but as long as you have an SMG equipped, you will eventually get this. Much easier on smaller maps too, like Shoothouse.
4.) Eliminate 4 players with a headshot, using any SMG – must be done in public contracts. Just have to get headshots with SMG, and you should be aiming for a headshot anyway.
5.) Eliminate 16 players as Meiko (Contractor) – must be done in public contracts. Remember to use Meiko. Meiko has the Ninja perk which makes her quiet while sprinting, not showing up on enemy radar.
For completing the Free Operation for week 6, you will unlock the Raptor SMG.
Premium Operation – Week 6
1.) Eliminate 8 players using C4 – must be done in public contracts. Difficult to get. Definitely will help if you purchased the Node contractor who has the Afterlife skill allowing him to detonate C4 after death. Easiest on defense, and if you have the door blocker. You have to time it correctly and remember you have to hold that L1 button for a few seconds to detonate your C4. You must eliminate them, this will not count if you place C4 by a downed opponent.
2.) Execute 4 downed players using explosives - must be done in public contracts. Down enemies and then just throw a grenade. You just have to kill enemies that are downed. You can use C4 or any grenades.
3.) Get 4 multi-eliminations by eliminating more than one player at a time with explosions – must be done in public contracts. You can use any grenade or C4 or grenade launcher. Impact grenades are the weakest grenades, so best to try your luck with regular frag grenades or sticky. Remember that the contractor Red can get one extra frag grenade or you can equip the Bang Bang skill on your favorite contractor.
4.) Eliminate 4 players using frag grenades – must be done in public contracts. You could easily work on this while attempting the third task using frag grenades.
5.) Eliminate 4 players using impact grenades – must be done in public contracts. Impact grenades are the weakest grenades, so it is easier if you get a few bullets into your target first and then hit them with an impact grenade. Unless you hit someone right on, you will not kill an enemy with an impact grenade if they are at 100% health and it just hits near them.
For completing the Premium Operation for week 6 and having the Ops Pass purchased, you will unlock the Falling Star trinket across all contractors and all guns.
Bonus Operation – Week 6
Coming soon - I haven't unlocked this operation yet.
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