Dad's Hideout (DHO) is the online man cave for dads. Who is a "dad"?
A dad is any male who has a child that they care for. You could be a dad of biological children, a dad with step-children, or just a dad because you are in a relationship with someone who has children. Heck, uncles count, too. If you care for or mentor children, you are a dad - we dads are all bonded by the responsibilities and burdens of caring for (or having cared for) the ones we call our children. Any and all dads are welcome here at DHO!
Come and chat about family, life, work, your hobbies (especially dads gaming!) and anything else on your mind. We are looking to provide more dad focused content over the next few months, so stay tuned for more.
Sign up, log in and browse the forums. Don't be shy - say hi! We also recommend you check out our Discord server, blog, podcasts, and clans:
- Official DHO Discord Server - Come and chat live with others dads or join our voice comms and play a game or two!
- DHO Blog - Being a Dad is rough and tough, but having to overcome obstacles allows dad to gain experience in many aspects of life. So gather round, and let us share the wisdom some of the Dad's Hideout members have accumulated over the years!
- Dads Ungrounded (Adult Language Possible!) - Just a couple of dads talking about life, the world, and whatever else crosses their minds!
- Dads Hiding Out - It's about Dad stuff, Nerdom and everything grown, almost middle-aged, men might want to talk about!
- DHO Clan Listing - Looking for a clan for your game? Why not DHO? Have a clan that DHO should know about? Apply today!
Announcements: (updated 30 Oct 2018)
- DHO Clan Listing is now live! Dads, are you looking for DHO clans but don't know where to start? We fixed that! Start here! We also need YOU to help us get the information for the Listing - if you have a clan that DHO members use or one you think that DHO members would be interested in joining, go here and apply. We will then add you to our listing!
- With the holidays are fast approaching, DHO is happy to announce our Amazon Affiliate Campaign! By using an Amazon Affiliate link to get to Amazon, you provide DHO a bit of advertising income on everything you already buy - it costs you nothing, but it helps DHO a whole bunch. This year, we are looking to fund the "Dad in Need" coffers: Money collected from the Amazon sales will be used to support a DHO Member that may be having trouble affording presents this year.
If you haven't donated yet, please see our PATREON DRIVE! Donations are only ever spent directly on DHO, the Forum, and Discord!
"Now, here, you see, it takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place."
The Red Queen to Alice,Through the Looking-Glass, Lewis Carroll.2
Have you ever heard of "The Red Queen Hypothesis"? It states that organisms must constantly adapt and evolve in order to simply survive. This theory has been applied to areas beyond biology - business, exercise, education to name a few. It also applies to dadshideout.com and other online communities. Remember "MySpace"? When you fail to adapt to the changing conditions, you don't just stop expanding, you actually shrink until you die. It seems no one can avoid the Red Queen - DHO is no different. Unless DHO adapts to changing conditions and evolves to be a better organization, DHO will follow in the steps of Myspace.
Changing of the Guard
In July of this year (2018), there was a huge change here at dadshideout.com. You may not have noticed it, but the custodianship of the website changed hands. With the changing of the guard came new views and new ideas. It also came with a realization. If dadshideout.com continued on its current course, the site would be dead in a year. So come along with “The Good, The Dad, and The Ugly” as we take a look at the past, the present and the future of DHO.
The current custodians are @thedakar and @xJediDadx . They are the current Head Administrators for dadshideout.com and the DHO Discord Server. Previously, @Aftrthought051 and @MagmaFlow were the lead administrators with @joey791 and @Pinmonkey001 being invaluable supporters of DHO with other administrative duties such as TeamSpeak. This team has been in place since the inception of DHO and had done a fantastic job of keeping DHO and open and welcome place for dads. Yet, 8 years after the doors of the current forum opened to its first members, the original admin team was feeling the pressure. The passion was there, but the time to devote to DHO was, understandably, waning. Action was needed.
The call for volunteers went out in June of 2018. Who was willing to take the responsibility of keeping the "lights on" and be the new Admins of DHO? The responsibility is a big one. Since October of 2010, there have been over 2300 dads that have joined the ranks of DHO. Tens of thousands of posts have been written in the forums. Dozens of clans have been created with “dadshideout” or “DHO” in their titles. DHO is more than a website - it is an entire online ecosystem. It goes far beyond a gaming clan; it is a place for dads to find advice, receive mentorship, and commiserate with other dads about being a dad.
With the bat signal lit, xjedidadx and thedakar threw their hats into the ring. The council of admin dads conferred - who would be the chosen ones? After much deliberation, it was decided that thedakar and xJediDadX were to be given the honor and privilege of being the new administrators. Shortly thereafter, the accounts were transferred, the passwords given, and the keys handed over. With that, DHO had two new Dads at the helm.
So there you go. All done, right?
Something Rotten in The State of Denmark
One of the first things thedakar did was play around with all the options on the forum and found the holy grail of number nerds - analytics software. Analytics is the computational analysis of data or statistics aka: math that tells you things. The good news is that the math came as pictures (graphs). The bad news is that the math pictures were not saying good things:
DHO Member Activity is Down:
The volume of posts is down:
Messages between Members is down:
New Membership is down:
In short, DHO was dying. DHO, by all metrics, has been shrinking from its peak in 2015, but the current trend was sobering. If the rate of decline continued, the site would be a ghost town within a year. With no one around, there would be no reason to spend the money keeping the site open and the legacy of DHO would disappear. So the new admins declared that something had to be done and change was coming!
The old admins wished them luck and hoped for the best. The old admin team had tried to reverse the decline, so let's be clear that they are in no way to blame. Some of the long time DHO members shrugged their internet shoulders and said, “it has been tried before - good luck.” The reactions were rather lackluster - measured at best. The admins were volunteers, the decline had been happening for a long time, and what could be done on a non-existent budget, anyway? The odds seemed stacked against success.
The Council of Elrond
In August, thedakar put out the call to form a team of DHO members. Armed with his graphs showing the declining metrics, thedakar sought to get the experience and diversity needed to look at the problem, present solutions and debate the way ahead. The team would be made of long time DHO members, more recent dads, gamer dads, non-gamer dads, and dads of all ages. A dozen of dads raised their hands and offered to take part. The team was formed to tackle the problem. The idea was simple - figure out how to revitalize DHO. The answers were far more complicated.
This will be a multi-part series where we walk you through the DHO Revitalization discussion, the lessons learned AND ( most importantly ) look for your feedback on the way ahead!
Stay tuned to “The Good, The Dad, and The Ugly,” to learn more about DHO and its way ahead.